“Love yourself, love your body, develop your sexuality and realize your fantasies.”
In the first of our Pornhub Authors series, MiaBandini tells us how she met her partner, how their relationship grew stronger, how to last longer in bed, and a simple 5-step guide to enjoying anal sex.
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How it all started
Our relationship began in an unusual, but fun, way. We met on a dating site, where my man Den offered to give me a massage – just a massage. I checked his photos and saw a big and handsome guy, so I decided to take a chance. The massage was gentle and pleasant, and not sexual, until the moment when I offered to take off my panties, so that it would be more convenient to massage. Well, when he began to take off my underwear and saw a juicy ass and wet pussy, which had already ben excited by the "regular" massage, it became much hotter. We didn’t have sex - you know me… I’m a nice girl ;) - but there were crazy hot kisses and caresses. After three dates, I couldn’t resist him anymore, so I suggested we go to a secluded place. After the first time we had crazy sex, I told myself that I was in big trouble – I was falling in love. And as you can see, it worked out.
"I was in big trouble – I was falling in love."
Our sex life constantly developed and improved. The emotions became brighter and sharper with every encounter. We tried many different toys, poses, places and each time, we enjoyed each other like it was the first time. This, by the way, is one of the pledges of strong intimate relationships – always try new things, keep your sex life exciting, and try to enjoy each other the way you did in the beginning. That's how we came to porn - my man asked me to start shooting videos and I quickly agreed, since it's easy for us to shoot it - it's easy to show how hot sex can be with couples in love.
"It's easy to show how hot sex can be with couples in love."
Unfortunately, however, porn can contribute to some complexes and fallacies. People look at beautiful bodies with big tits and compare themselves to them. For example, we often receive comments about Den having a small cock. But his cock is 17 cm/6.75” long! It’s much more than average size, but still doesn’t meet professional porn standards. We never considered that some might think his cock is small, until we began to upload our videos. And, of course, it isn’t small, but porn has caused some unrealistic expectations for some people. Please love yourself, love your body, develop your sexuality and realize your fantasies. Insecurity kills pleasure. It's okay if you’re not a Rocco Sifredi or Asa Akira.
"Insecurity kills pleasure."
Now I want to answer some common questions that our fans always ask:
How guys can last longer in bed?
Den: Here’s my advice: It's all about breathing. When you exhale, all your sensations are reduced a little bit. Think about it: when you hurt yourself, what do you automatically do? You exhale long and slow to relax and reduce the pain. Therefore, you should exhale slowly and as long as you are comfortable with during sex. Short incomplete inhale and long exhale – that’s the key. Just a little less oxygen and you control your orgasm. It might be a little uncomfortable when you first try it, but now it's become automatic for me.
"It's all about breathing."
You should start controlling your breath long before you think you’re about to cum - start when you start having sex. When your orgasm is too close, just pause and exhale. It’s also very helpful to change positions. Different poses have different impact. For example, Mia's pussy is so tight, that if I need to cool off, I have a rest in her throat, or even in her ass. After a long time of action, maybe an hour, sometimes a half hour, your nerve endings become less sensitive, and you can easily accelerate the pace. Often we have sex for two to three hours. If you practice, you will succeed.
How to fall in love with anal sex
In anal sex, several points are important:
1. Relax. If you have pain, relax your sphincter and exhale slowly.
2. Regularity. The sphincter is a muscle. And this muscle needs to be regularly stretched and trained. Once you do, it will relax quickly and painlessly. For example, we have anal sex 4-5 times a week.
3. Anal desensitizing Lidocaine lubricant. If you’ve experienced pain, or if you want rough and intense anal sex, you should use a lubricant with 5% lidocaine. Unfortunately, we haven’t found a silicone based lubricant with lidocaine, so we lubricate the asshole with water-based lidocaine lubricant, and then we lubricate the cock with silicone-based lubricant. It also helps men last longer and keep their erection longer, if you do anal without a condom; the desensitizing lubricant affects your cock as well.
4. Anal plugs. If you’re still uncomfortable with anal, or if you plan to go rough, you should dilate your ass with an anal plug with anesthetic lubricant (lidocaine 5%) 20 minutes before sex. The plug helps to prepare and relax the ass. 3 cm diameter is enough.
5. Position. The best position to start anal sex is cowgirl. The woman can control the movement, and relax her sphincter easier than in other poses. If you practice, anal sex will be a great pleasure. But it does take a bit of work.
How to prepare for ass to mouth action
I use a shower enema anal plug. Perhaps you know that you have two sphincters: the outer and the inner. It’s important to release the water deep inside, at least 2 inches/5 cm., so that the water pressure does not irritate the internal sphincter. A shower enema anal plug is very simple to use. Just mount it to your shower system. You should lubricate it and put it deep in your ass. You can regulate the flow for your comfort. The water temperature should be close to body temperature. Let water fill you with medium flow - you need about 1 liter. Then, keep the water in your body for at least 2-3 minutes, then release it. Repeat 3-4 times, until the water flowing from your ass is clean. Then wait for 2-4 hours to let the remaining water soak in. If you did everything we mentioned above, your ass is absolutely clean - no smells, no nothing. Then you are ready to fuck ass to mouth with pleasure and confidence.
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